第一次约会最该避免的10 个错误
I was thinking about some of the common errors made on first dates. I came up with 10 common mistakes that could kill the chances for a second date.
我曾经兴国一些首次约会时会犯的常见错误。这里总结楚10 个， 别让他们回来你的第二次约会。
1 . Arriving late 迟到
even five minutes of lateness is inexcusable on the first date. People are already anxious on these excursions, so making someone wait and think more about everything is pretty rude. 在第一次约会时，即使是5分钟也不能迟到。 别人一斤处于一个交际与紧张的状态， 还让对方等待，增加各种担心，这样实在太没礼貌。
2 wardrobe malfunction 着装不当
Make sure you cater what you wear to what you’re doing. I try not to make a gril walk too much if she ’s in heels. Also, I’ve seen girls wear pearls and a nice blouse to trashy outdoor drinking events, or heels to sporting events.
确保你的着装与你所参加的场合相符。 我尽量不让女孩们穿着高跟鞋走路太多。 同样的失败案例。有些女孩带着珠宝。护着创这高跟鞋参加体育活动。
3. talking politics or religion谈论政治
Staying away from debatable content is a good idea the first time out. It’s fun to argue with your significant other, but I think it’s important to reach a comfort level first. If you try to proselytize someone, or battle them over a hot topic like abortion, you may reach a point of no return. 第一次出去时最好远离争议性的内容。 虽然与对方争论不会让场面无趣。但我想最重要的一点是，千万不要过火。 荣国你试图让对方改变信仰，或者在一些多台这样的面干问题上说服对方，那你一户想要改变观点都不行。
4 . checking out other people 大量其他人
You ’d think that no one would do this, but guys are always looking at waitresses, or other patrons when out. My one friend got in hot water because his date told me he made cat calls at other girls while on a date.
你是否以为不会有这么做？ 但是男人总喜欢大量女服务员或其他什么人。我的以为朋友有一席约会之所以失败收场。及时因为她对别的女孩嘲讽了一下。
5. bringing friends [ non group date] 带上其他朋友
If you bring friends long you look immature and insecure. You also throw the other person for a loop if they were expecting the date to be one-on-one. Make sure you establish that it is a one-on-one date, and follow the rules and show up alone.
如果你带上其他朋友， 这就是不成熟和美有安全感的表现。 如果他们原以为这个是两个人的约会。林一个人难免会觉得尴尬。确保你发起的是一个一对一的约会， 遵守这项跪着，独自出行。
6 getting too drunk 过量饮酒
Some people turn into a completely different person learn about you while you’re sober, before you get wasted with them. Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it’s fine. Just don’t push it too far. 有些
人在喝醉了的时候会完全变成林一个人。趁你没醉没吐的时候，就像对方坦白你是一个怎么样的人吧。酒精英爱在彼此关系发展到一定阶段在发挥作用，但如果只是浅尝辄止，或者者增加一点烂漫七夕。这是没有问题的， 不要过量就好，。
7. being too aggressive 太过主动
No one wants to deal with someone’s wandering hands before they are ready. It is one of the best ways to creep someone out. Just because someone once doesn’t mean it’s an invitation into the sack. It ’s best to be hands off on the first date.
没有人希望在还没有准备好事就牵手。这是代表一个拒接别人的好方法。应为别人只是想和你吃个方， 而不是要抢你进入情网。所以， 第一次约会时最好还是不要牵手。 8 being too unaggressive 太过被动
My friend Margaret warns me to be more aggressive all the time. She said that if I don’t kiss someone at the end of a date, or make a move when they hop in my bed they will begin to think something ’s wrong with them, or that I’m not into them. Maybe that’s true, but sometimes I am just being too safe so that I don’t break the rule I just mentioned above
我的盆友马格了利特四是高姐我要主动些。他说乳沟我在约会结束后还不吻对方。或者他们的屁股已经坐到了我的床上死了还不做出点表示。对方肯定会以为自己做错了神慢或者去哦根本不在呼他。也许这是對的但有时我又不想为了 过分保护自己而 违反了上面的规则 9 . canceling at the last minute 在最后时刻起效约会
Canceling for a legitimate reason is fine, but respect your date’s time so that they can plan their night without you. Canceling one hour before a date is not cool-most of the date prep has already started at this point.有正当的理由起效约会淡然没有什么。单亲尊重你的约会时间，，一直他们可以吧你排除在晚上的计划之外，在林约会前一个小时起效并不酷，大部分的约会已经在这个时间准备好了、
10. dominant speaker话语狂
Try to breath in between sentences, and don’t talk too much. Give your date a chance to talk. Aren ’t you trying to get to know one another? And don’t speak for that other person (i.e order for them at dinner) unless they invite you to help with their order. 尝试在每个句子之间调整子啊呼吸，不要说得太太多，让你的约会变成对话，难道你不想跟了解对方吗。也不要办对方讲话|（如点餐时）除非他们要钱你帮他点餐
Do you agree or disagree with any of these? ever have these happen to you, or have you ever made these mistakes? Would you go on a second date after any of these mistakes? What would you ad to this list? 你是否同意以上观点？ 你是否喷碰巧遇上。 这样的人，或者你曾经犯过这些错误？ 你认为放了这些错误还能有第二次的约会吗？你认为还有什么需要补充的 内容吗？
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第一次约会最该避免的10 个错误
I was thinking about some of the common errors made on first dates. I came up with 10 common mistakes that could kill the chances for a second date.
我曾经兴国一些首次约会时会犯的常见错误。这里总结楚10 个， 别让他们回来你的第二次约会。
1 . Arriving late 迟到
even five minutes of lateness is inexcusable on the first date. People are already anxious on these excursions, so making someone wait and think more about everything is pretty rude. 在第一次约会时，即使是5分钟也不能迟到。 别人一斤处于一个交际与紧张的状态， 还让对方等待，增加各种担心，这样实在太没礼貌。
2 wardrobe malfunction 着装不当
Make sure you cater what you wear to what you’re doing. I try not to make a gril walk too much if she ’s in heels. Also, I’ve seen girls wear pearls and a nice blouse to trashy outdoor drinking events, or heels to sporting events.
确保你的着装与你所参加的场合相符。 我尽量不让女孩们穿着高跟鞋走路太多。 同样的失败案例。有些女孩带着珠宝。护着创这高跟鞋参加体育活动。
3. talking politics or religion谈论政治
Staying away from debatable content is a good idea the first time out. It’s fun to argue with your significant other, but I think it’s important to reach a comfort level first. If you try to proselytize someone, or battle them over a hot topic like abortion, you may reach a point of no return. 第一次出去时最好远离争议性的内容。 虽然与对方争论不会让场面无趣。但我想最重要的一点是，千万不要过火。 荣国你试图让对方改变信仰，或者在一些多台这样的面干问题上说服对方，那你一户想要改变观点都不行。
4 . checking out other people 大量其他人
You ’d think that no one would do this, but guys are always looking at waitresses, or other patrons when out. My one friend got in hot water because his date told me he made cat calls at other girls while on a date.
你是否以为不会有这么做？ 但是男人总喜欢大量女服务员或其他什么人。我的以为朋友有一席约会之所以失败收场。及时因为她对别的女孩嘲讽了一下。
5. bringing friends [ non group date] 带上其他朋友
If you bring friends long you look immature and insecure. You also throw the other person for a loop if they were expecting the date to be one-on-one. Make sure you establish that it is a one-on-one date, and follow the rules and show up alone.
如果你带上其他朋友， 这就是不成熟和美有安全感的表现。 如果他们原以为这个是两个人的约会。林一个人难免会觉得尴尬。确保你发起的是一个一对一的约会， 遵守这项跪着，独自出行。
6 getting too drunk 过量饮酒
Some people turn into a completely different person learn about you while you’re sober, before you get wasted with them. Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it’s fine. Just don’t push it too far. 有些
人在喝醉了的时候会完全变成林一个人。趁你没醉没吐的时候，就像对方坦白你是一个怎么样的人吧。酒精英爱在彼此关系发展到一定阶段在发挥作用，但如果只是浅尝辄止，或者者增加一点烂漫七夕。这是没有问题的， 不要过量就好，。
7. being too aggressive 太过主动
No one wants to deal with someone’s wandering hands before they are ready. It is one of the best ways to creep someone out. Just because someone once doesn’t mean it’s an invitation into the sack. It ’s best to be hands off on the first date.
没有人希望在还没有准备好事就牵手。这是代表一个拒接别人的好方法。应为别人只是想和你吃个方， 而不是要抢你进入情网。所以， 第一次约会时最好还是不要牵手。 8 being too unaggressive 太过被动
My friend Margaret warns me to be more aggressive all the time. She said that if I don’t kiss someone at the end of a date, or make a move when they hop in my bed they will begin to think something ’s wrong with them, or that I’m not into them. Maybe that’s true, but sometimes I am just being too safe so that I don’t break the rule I just mentioned above
我的盆友马格了利特四是高姐我要主动些。他说乳沟我在约会结束后还不吻对方。或者他们的屁股已经坐到了我的床上死了还不做出点表示。对方肯定会以为自己做错了神慢或者去哦根本不在呼他。也许这是對的但有时我又不想为了 过分保护自己而 违反了上面的规则 9 . canceling at the last minute 在最后时刻起效约会
Canceling for a legitimate reason is fine, but respect your date’s time so that they can plan their night without you. Canceling one hour before a date is not cool-most of the date prep has already started at this point.有正当的理由起效约会淡然没有什么。单亲尊重你的约会时间，，一直他们可以吧你排除在晚上的计划之外，在林约会前一个小时起效并不酷，大部分的约会已经在这个时间准备好了、
10. dominant speaker话语狂
Try to breath in between sentences, and don’t talk too much. Give your date a chance to talk. Aren ’t you trying to get to know one another? And don’t speak for that other person (i.e order for them at dinner) unless they invite you to help with their order. 尝试在每个句子之间调整子啊呼吸，不要说得太太多，让你的约会变成对话，难道你不想跟了解对方吗。也不要办对方讲话|（如点餐时）除非他们要钱你帮他点餐
Do you agree or disagree with any of these? ever have these happen to you, or have you ever made these mistakes? Would you go on a second date after any of these mistakes? What would you ad to this list? 你是否同意以上观点？ 你是否喷碰巧遇上。 这样的人，或者你曾经犯过这些错误？ 你认为放了这些错误还能有第二次的约会吗？你认为还有什么需要补充的 内容吗？
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